sex is a necessity

Me and my friend Sara have been talking about this subject before the weekend and it got me thinking. sex is a necessity in a relationship period. no couple is truly happy together if the sex ain't great. if you are not happy in the bedroom then the rest of the day is crappy or am i wrong.
i personally had alot of bad sex experiences, and i had been only with 4 men before i met my husband. i had told him of all my experiences. i think he was surprised at the fact that i was 22 and haven't had great sex.
well to fill you in on my experiences, the first guy i was ever intamit with was when i was 18 and had just graduated high school. believe me i had dated alot but never went passed 2nd based with any of them cause i said i wouldn't till i graduated. but when we finally did the deed, believe me it hurt but it wasn't enjoyable i thought that is how it was. so then after 3rd time of having sex he had took me home but he wanted to fool around some more. so he was playing (fingering me) and when we were done he had kissed me, i went inside and when i went to the bathroom i had had blood on my face. he had called to make sure everything was ok and i had told him the first thing that popped into my head was that i had started my period. but in actuality i had lost my cherry to his hand. i know it is a little graphic but i want you to picture yourself in my shoes.
so then after almost 2 years with that guy i had slept with the first guy i thought wasn't that bad and it was horrible and he made me never want to do blow jobs ever again. then the next guy i was in a real relationship and we lived together but he was bad at it too. i was trying to make it better, i went and got movies tried different positions but it was still to the point when we were done i waited for him to leave the room so i could take care of myself.
so then number three we would fool around in the car or on the floor at his dads house, how romantic. but it was bad too i was starting to think it was me and that was how sex is suposed to be.
but then my biggest crush i ever had on some one, turned out to be the beginning of true love. when me and him got together it was fantastic we tried new things and every time it gets better and better we do argue like any couple but we have the great makeup sex afterwards.
wanting to turn him, turns me on and this is what i have been searching for,. now i understand why the other relationships didn't work because we never had the sex connection maybe they did but it just wasn't there for me. this is the key to a great relationship, go to bed happy and wake up happy and the rest of the day maybe bad with arguments with your spouse or others, but when you come and you see your spouse and all you want to do to him, is ravage him then you know he is a keeper.
so if you love your spouse try new things to keep the flame a burnin
and believe me some guys think about stuff you never would just ask him or her what is a fantasy you would like me to preform for you. i had asked mine and i was hoping i didn't get myself in trouble, but his first fantasy was for me to give him a BJ while he smoked a blunt. it was so simple i was surprised it had made me laugh. but i did it all the time and it drove him nuts. and then the other day i had asked him again what is a new fantasy cause you know that once we ask thats all they think about and they are waiting for you to ask again.
and this new one was great cause he actually had to scream into the pillow cause he was moaning so loud. he had told me he wanted me, while i was giving him a BJ after he came to suck on the head of his pecker ( cause i cant stand cum but it does wipe off lol) he shook all over the place and after that we had sex for about an hour so i think i will be doing that for along time lol
so ask you partner their fantasy or you can try one of my hubbies to break the ice for yours lol have fun